was the afternoon before a picnic on the white house lawn. we invited teenage boys from local schools and famous adult mentors. i was sitting in a full a called the diplomatic reception room whenoyer called the diplomatic reception room when president obama walked in. what is the hold up? why haven't you popped the question? surprise, i started with a range of excuses. i am saving money for a ring and a wedding and waiting for my job to slow down to spend more time together. the president interrupted again. do you love her? do you think she will be a great weight? yes i do. then you can't let that other stuff stop you. marriage is the best decision you can make. it sounds trite but it does complete a person, rounds you out. if you made up your mind you want you to be your wife and mother of your children that is all you need to know. you should think about popping the question. you need to get married. i knew then that marriage ran deep for president obama. i came to know it as a knowing force for his life. growing up with his grandparents an